Yuav luag txhua tus neeg uas ua tiav qhov kev txav mus los thiab nyob hauv lawv qhov chaw tshiab sighs thiab hais tias, "Lub sijhawm kawg kuv tsiv mus."
Tsis muaj kev tshawb fawb los ua pov thawj tias. Tab sis leej twg tsis ntshai tsiv?
Nws ntxhov siab txij thaum pib mus txog thaum xaus. Thiab rau cov neeg laus, nws tseem nyuaj dua.
Lawv yuav tsum tau txiav lawv cov khoom, ntiav thiab tswj cov neeg tsiv teb tsaws chaw thiab tshem tawm hauv lawv lub tsev tshiab. Cov dej num no yog kev xav thiab lub cev ntws tawm.
Tiffiny Lutz, tus thawj coj ua lag luam ntawm Caring Transitions, lub tuam txhab Cincinnati-based uas tswj kev txav mus rau cov neeg laus hais tias "Txoj kev txav thaum koj muaj 65 xyoos thiab siab dua feem ntau tsis yog qhov zoo siab tos txais."
Rau cov laus laus, kev txav mus los feem ntau dhau los ua qhov tsis xav tau, kev ntxhov siab-inducing xav tau. Kev ntshai kev noj qab haus huv, kev poob ntawm tus txij nkawm lossis kev ploj ntawm kev txav mus los yuav tau yuam lawv txhais tes.
Tawm hauv ib puag ncig uas paub zoo yog qhov nyuaj txaus. Qhov tseeb tias lawv yuav txav los ntawm ib lub tsev xis nyob mus rau qhov chaw me me ua rau lwm txheej ntawm kev nyuaj siab thiab kev tu siab.
Lutz hais tias "Lawv yuav tau tshem tawm ntau ntawm lawv cov khoom," Lutz hais. “Thiab lawv cov khoom cuam tshuam nrog lawv qhov kev nco. Muaj kev xav ntawm kev tso tseg ntawm tej yam. "
Tsiv cov thawj coj uas tshwj xeeb hauv kev hloov chaw laus feem ntau pab txo qis. Lawv tuaj yeem npaj cov auctions thiab muag vaj tse nrog rau cov koom haum uas lees txais cov nyiaj pub dawb thiab nqa cov khoom tawm.
Kev npaj tawm mus rau qhov chaw nyob ntev los nrog qee cov haujlwm uas txaus ntshai. Cov tsev neeg nruab nrab sau ntau tshaj 20 phaus ntawm cov pov tseg uas tsim kev puas tsuaj txhua xyoo, raws li US Environmental Protection Agency. Yog li kev tiv tauj koj lub nroog lossis lub nroog kom paub txog kev pov tseg pov tseg (qhov lawv lees txais, cov sijhawm tso tawm, nqi, thiab lwm yam) yog ib qho ntawm cov khoom ua ntej.
Nws tsis yooj yim rau qee cov neeg laus los koom nrog lawv cov ntsiab lus. Reframing tus txheej txheem downsizing nyob rau hauv cov nqe lus zoo yuav pab tau.
"Peb yuav pab koj nrhiav lub tsev tshiab rau koj cov khoom muaj nqis thiab pab lawv nyob," Lutz nyiam hais kom txo cov neeg siv khoom txhawj xeeb.
Nws pab neeg them nqi rau cov lus lawv siv. Piv txwv li, lawv hloov "downsizing" nrog "sizing txoj cai."
"Peb qhia cov neeg laus tias lawv cov nqi cua sov yuav qis dua, lawv cov kev saib xyuas yuav yooj yim dua," nws hais. Kev tsom mus rau cov txiaj ntsig ntawm kev txav mus los - tsis muaj kev txhawj xeeb ntxiv txog kev tshem tawm daus lossis siv sijhawm ntev tu tsev - tuaj yeem cuam tshuam nrog cov neeg laus.
Cov sijhawm teem sijhawm yog qhov tseem ceeb thaum npaj kev txav mus los. Tsim ib daim ntawv tshuaj xyuas txog 60 hnub ua ntej kev npaj txav mus los. Yog tias koj ntiav ib lub tuam txhab tshwj xeeb hauv kev txav cov neeg laus, tej zaum koj yuav tau txais ib daim ntawv npaj uas qhia koj txhua kauj ruam ntawm txoj kev.
Lutz hais tias "Lub sijhawm ntim khoom yog qhov tseem ceeb vim tias koj yuav tsum tau qhia qhov chaw npaj ntawm koj qhov chaw tshiab thiab txheeb xyuas qhov yuav haum thiab qhov tsis haum," Lutz hais. Los ntawm qhov ntawd, koj tuaj yeem cais yam koj xav tau ntim rau hauv lub thawv thiab yam koj yuav tsis nqa nrog koj.
Tsawg kawg yog ob lub hlis ua ntej kev txav mus los, koj yuav xav ua kom hnyav txog kev txiav koj cov khoom thiab tshuaj xyuas cov phiaj xwm hauv pem teb ntawm qhov chaw koj yuav nyob. Tej zaum koj kuj tseem xav pib yuav khoom rau cov thawj coj tsiv lossis cov neeg tsiv teb tsaws chaw, tau txais cov lus hais thiab tshawb fawb lawv cov kev pabcuam.
Feem ntau cov thawj coj txav mus los pab nrog kev npaj thiab saib xyuas txhua theem ntawm cov txheej txheem hloov chaw. Thaum lawv tsis tsav tsheb, lawv feem ntau yuav pom zoo cov neeg tsiv teb tsaws chaw uas lawv ua haujlwm nrog tsis tu ncua.
Kwv yees li ib hlis ua ntej kev txav mus los, koj yuav xav xaiv lub tuam txhab tsiv thiab pib ntim khoom hauv siab. Saib xyuas cov khoom siv logistical xws li ua tiav daim ntawv hloov chaw nyob thiab hu rau cov chaw siv hluav taws xob kom xaus kev pabcuam ntawm koj hnub tsiv.
Nws yog nyob rau hauv ob peb lub lis piam dhau los no raws li qhov kev txav ze ze uas cov neeg laus tuaj yeem tawm tsam los koom nrog cov khoom uas muaj txiaj ntsig zoo. Cov neeg hauv tsev neeg, cov phooj ywg thiab cov thawj coj txav mus los tuaj yeem muab kev txhawb nqa thaum lub sijhawm nyuaj no.
"Feem ntau, cov laus xav khaws txhua yam," Lutz hais. “Lawv yuav hais tias, 'Kuv yuav cia li muab tso rau hauv.' Peb xav zam qhov ntawd. "
Nws pom tias lawv tsis tshua rov qab mus rau lawv qhov chaw cia khoom. Thiab lawv tau txais daim nqi khaws cia tsis tu ncua uas lawv yuav tuaj yeem khuv xim.
Ib zaug ntxiv, Lutz muab qhov zoo rau ntawm qhov chaw muaj kev ntxhov siab.
"Kev txav mus los tuaj yeem yog qhov kev paub zoo vim tias koj tso koj tus kheej los sim qee yam tshiab," nws hais. "Nws tuaj yeem yog qhov kev paub tshiab."
Tau qhov twg los: https://www.marketwatch.com/story/moving-is-not-fun-when-youre-older-its-even-worse-11669855421?siteid=yhoof2&yptr=yahoo