Lo lus "Thanksgiving" txhais tau hais tias kev xav siab thiab txaus siab, tab sis peb lub teb chaws hnub so - Asmeskas thib ob nyiam raws li BBC News- tau dhau los ua diametric opposite. Tsis txhob xav txog kev sib koom qaib ntxhw, khoom noj khoom haus, cranberry sauce, thiab taub dag ncuav qab zib nrog cov tsev neeg thiab cov phooj ywg nyob rau hauv kev nplij siab ntawm lub tsev cozy, peb feem ntau tau ntxhov siab los xav txog cov teeb meem nyuaj ntawm kev mus ncig, yuav tsum tau nrog ib tug txiv ntxawm vwm. , raug mob ua si hauv tsev neeg kov ncaws pob, noj ntau dhau, lossis yuav tsum tau sawv ntsug thiab muab ci ci.
Elegant Thanksgiving noj hmo
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Cov tom kawg yog cov ntsiab lus ntawm txoj kev tshawb fawb apocryphal uas hais lus ua ntej pawg neeg ntxhov siab ntau dua li kev tuag, thiab tus neeg ua yeeb yam Jerry Seinfeld. xaus, “Puas yog suab zoo? Qhov no txhais tau hais tias rau tus neeg nruab nrab, yog tias koj mus rau lub ntees tuag, koj nyob hauv lub hleb zoo dua li ua kev zoo siab. "
Hmoov tsis zoo, thaum tib neeg feem ntau sawv los hais lus ntawm cov xwm txheej hauv zej zog, lawv ua nws tawm ntawm lub dab teg thiab feem ntau ua rau rov hais dua lawv tus kheej lossis rov hais dua, ua kom hais lus ntev dua li ib tus neeg xav hnov lossis ua rau koj tus pog yawg Edna tsaug zog ntawm lub rooj.
Muaj kev daws teeb meem, thiab nws tau txais kev tshoov siab los ntawm Malcom Gladwell phau ntawv muag khoom zoo tshaj plaws, Outliers: Zaj Dab Neeg ntawm Kev Vam Meej. Gladwell hais txog qhov ua tau zoo tshaj plaws ntawm Microsoft's Bill Gates thiab The Beatles rau qhov Gladwell piav qhia tias "Txoj cai 10,000 teev." Nyob rau hauv rooj plaub ntawm Gates nws siv sij hawm tas mus li tinkering nrog lub computer thaum nws nyob rau hauv high school; Nyob rau hauv cov ntaub ntawv Beatles, lawv tau siv sijhawm tsis kawg ua si hauv cov chaw ua si hmo ntuj hauv Tebchaws Yelemees. Hmoov tsis zoo, koj tsis muaj 10,000 teev ua ntej koj noj qaib ntxhw; tab sis koj tsis xav tau ntau lub sijhawm! Yam koj yuav tsum tau ua yog npaj thiab xyaum me ntsis.
Kev npaj. Xav txog yam koj xav hais ua ntej. Xav tshaj li cov ntsiab lus pom tseeb ib txwm muaj xws li ua tsaug rau txhua tus rau lawv txoj kev koom tes. Koj tuaj yeem suav nrog cov khoom zoo li niaj zaus tab sis ua rau lawv ob qho tib si tshiab thiab tshiab, tej zaum rov qab cov xwm txheej tseem ceeb uas txhua tus neeg ntawm lub rooj tau ntsib thoob plaws xyoo dhau los. Qhov txiaj ntsig ntawm kev ua yog tias nws ua rau txhua tus ntawm lub rooj xav tias koom nrog.
Sau koj cov ntawv thiab tshuaj xyuas lawv, ib zaug, ob zaug, peb zaug. Koj yuav pom tias koj cov tswv yim pib crystallize.
Xyaum ua haujlwm. Raws li Vince Lombardi, tus kws qhia football legendary, "Kev xyaum tsis ua kom zoo tag nrho. Kev xyaum zoo ua kom zoo meej. " Hauv kev nthuav qhia uas txhais tau tias peb hu ua "Verbalization," lub ntsiab lus hais cov lus tseeb hauv koj lub ci ci lossis koj cov lus hais nrov nrov rau cov neeg xav txog. Ua nws ib leeg. tab sis hais nws tsuas yog txoj hauv kev koj yuav thaum koj nyob rau pem hauv ntej ntawm koj cov neeg tuaj saib.
Ntau tus neeg tsis kam lees Verbalize. Qee tus neeg hais tias lawv cov lus tsis yog "ci" tsis tau, tsis paub tias Verbalization yuav txav cov txheej txheem ci nrog. Lwm tus xav tias tsis xis nyob vim hais lus nrov nrov tsis muaj cov neeg mloog zoo li lawv "ua yeeb yam." Tseem muaj lwm tus xav txog Verbalization ib yam nkaus.
Txawm yog vim li cas, lawv short-circuit tus txheej txheem.
Qee tus neeg sim txo qis lossis hloov kho daim ntawv rov hais dua uas feem ntau lapses rau hauv patter: "Okay, Kuv mam li hais ib yam dab tsi txog Great-Pawg Edna mus rau Ltalis, thiab tom qab ntawd kuv mam li tham txog Tom thiab Carol tus menyuam tshiab ..."
Suab paub? Raws li ib daim ntawv ntawm rehearsal, qhov no yog kiag li unproductive. Hais lus txog koj cov lus tsis yog ib txoj hauv kev zoo rau kev xyaum—ntau tshaj li kev hais lus txog ntaus pob tesniv yuav yog ib txoj hauv kev zoo los txhim kho koj lub nraub qaum.
Tib txoj hauv kev los rov hais dua yog hais koj lub suab nrov nrov hauv kev xyaum, ib yam li koj yuav ua ntej ntawm koj cov neeg tuaj saib. Txhua iteration yuav crystallize koj lub tswv yim, txhua iteration yuav pom kev sib txuas lus. Txhua qhov kev nce qib iteration yuav txhim kho qhov pom tseeb. Qhov ntau koj Verbalize, ntau smoothly koj cov lus yuav ntws.
Thiab koj yuav tsis xav tau Alka-Seltzer.
Tau qhov twg los: https://www.forbes.com/sites/jerryweissman/2022/11/24/how-to-relieve-the-stress-of-thanksgiving/